Why do we have to fake it until we make it...?
Why can't we all just deal with what's going on in our lives and find healthy ways of coping? Is it because we don't encourage it?
-grief, disappointment, fear, anger and regret are just a few things we have all experienced at some point in our lives.
It's almost as if the world wants you to hold onto what's hurting you; keeping it bottled up inside. I challenge us to find healthy ways to face what's bothering you and set yourself free.
The way we express our emotions towards something says a lot more about you than it does about the circumstance or the situation you're in.
Once your wounds heal, you'll be able to express your emotions simply, respectfully and directly.
Negative emotions only causes more problems when we hang onto it or express it disrespectfully or in unhealthy ways. -if we pay attention to what our emotions are trying to tell us and take positive action; you've used your emotions wisely.
-notice and observe your feelings
-decide what isn't right and take action to address it instead of perpetuating the emotion
-fear is just a distraction and instills more fear, which could lead to anxiety and depression.
How debilitating? -to not be able to function enough to perform your basic needs...
ex: laundry, cleaning your room, building healthy relationships or simply being on time for work...
Victim energy or having a victimized state of mind only distracts you from addressing the real problem(s). Open up...and let it out!!!!
Then you have shame; which may leave you feeling exposed, vulnerable and worthless...this is a downward spiral. Over time, shame causes us to hide our true selves deeper and deeper so others can't see how we really feel. Emotions like shame and fear lead us to hide. We hide behind self-pity, self righteousness, perfectionism, anger, addictions, blame, rationalizing, analyzing, etc. but these defenses block and prevent us from healing.
Anxiety and guilt comes from the shame of not doing what society and other people tell us we should do.
Friends, this is not a how-to project: I want to simply challenge you/us to question yourselves on how you choose to deal with adversity in your lives... And remember, wellness comes from within.
"If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive" -author unknown
-Stay Blessed... <3
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Good read...really makes you take a deeper look inside yourself!!
ReplyDeleteYes, it does. And we should all take a deeper look inside ourselves and have enough courage to address our thoughts and express!
DeleteLove the quote. And I believe many ppl can most definitely relate (if they want to admit to it or not) to the context of the post. ����
ReplyDeleteYes, sometimes it's hard to be true to yourself and show that person to the world but we all should. And I'm glad you like the quote! Thanks for sharing :-)
DeleteYes indeed, I totally agree with you when you say if it costs you your peace it's definitely much 2 expensive. Peace is a place of of refuge, a place that your very soul desires to live in. Without peace a person's whole entire energy is off, and when you're energy is off it can easily be misplaced, and these are things that can lead to misunderstandings and all sorts of uninvited events. Peace is very important.☺☺☺
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DeleteThank you for your input and yes you're right about that, without peace life can be gruesome. Don't be afraid to fight for and protect your peace...to live in fear is to not live at all!😉
DeleteWhat has happened is, we’ve (black people) taken on the mindset and the ways of the European, honing back to Columbus. Why did steal America? He nor the ones that followed could deal with the Queens law, so they stole land where they could make their own bastardized version. Even after some time, they revealed against that. The African was a spiritual being prior to being stripped of his beliefs and connection to their universe. So were the people who are indigenous to this country. Even today we witness the European way of always blaming someone else for the ill’s that befall them. Can’t deal with tough or stressful issues, so they oook for the biggest gun, or the closet window. They are not suited to work for anything, so they enslave others, or create laws to suit their laziness while concocting other means to rob, steal and or cheat
ReplyDeleteThis attitude, mindset and belief system was force fed to those who had a totally different system of value, principals, and way of life. After many generations, this started to feel like the norm, because we were so far removed from “the way”, that the other(s) way seemed normal.
Even the professionals who profit off, let be specific and say anger management. Their method of dealing is to suppress and move on. Coming up with suggestions they call methods, that really are tricks to try and deceive the mind of something it really can’t process. That then will cause something else. Delusion. You are delusion if you suppress so much that you lack emotion suited to deal with or rid the body mind and soul of what makes it sick. Fake ass.
I forgot the rest of my rant and I thought I was on a roll, until my minds wheels came off.
You've made some valid points, Byron. Being brain washed, trained to think a certain way and stripped of hope, you lose your will rise and shine and lose your power. It's a trap. Definitely sad... and you're right, u definitely need to b suited to deal w/ your emotions effectively in order to rid yourself of toxicity. -whatever it is. Thanks for sharing...
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